This is the hardest blog I have had to write.
Yesterday was a very good day for Mikey and Liam. They were officially adopted on a blind referral by an Italian couple. They now have a Mama and a Papa – and there are now two less orphans in this world.
We are very happy that they do not have to spend another night separated. We are happy that they do not have to spend another night in an orphanage. We are happy that they get to be together, know love, and are now a family.
Selfishly, we are sad. We have been working towards bringing Mikey and Liam home. We were anxiously awaiting their arrival into our family. We have already started setting up for them. In our hearts, minds, and souls – they were our sons. We knew this was a slim possibility when we committed to bringing these boys home. But we just didn’t think it would happen to us.
We also understand that our family and friends are also feeling this loss. We ask that you please focus on the positive – Mikey & Liam now have a home. That was the goal. It wasn’t with us and our family, but the perfect children will come home with us.
As we mentioned in the beginning, the country we are adopting from does not officially allow the pre-selection of children. The country they are from is a non-Hague country. People who have adopted from there have said their experience was similar to being in the Wild, Wild West.
This is not going to stop us from adopting. This is a speed bump in our journey, something that we will get past. Yes, we are heart-broken. But we are anxious to know which children are meant to be in our family. We are still pressing forward with our paperwork. We are approved to adopt a sibling set, and this is our full intention.
We appreciate your support, and love as we continue to work through our paperwork. Right now we do not have a specific child/ren in mind that we are going to adopt. We may just proceed as a blind referral. Basically this means that when we get invited to come to their country – their government will show us three sets of children that are available that we will get to meet and choose from. We have also reached out to the facilitators in country to see if they may know of another set of children that need a Mama and Papa.
Thank you for your understanding and space as we heal and push forward. We know our perfect children are out there, and we will soon be united with them
Bobby & Lura
Oh Bobby and Lura!! My heart breaks for yours!! I know there are tears being shed in your home right now, as there were in ours when we got that same news. As hard as it is in this moment now, there is peace in knowing that God's plan is always perfect, and He alone is trustworthy. I know you would have been awesome parents for Mikey & Liam, as you will be for whatever children God has planned for you in the end. We cry with you in this moment, but we will also rejoice with you when you get to have that first exchange of hugs with the children you soon get to call the newest members of the Jepson Family. May God's peace that surpasses your understanding surround you and your home, and all those loved ones around you until then. {{{hugs}}}
ReplyDeleteHey Bobby and Lura,
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right to be thankful that Mikey and Liam have a home together now. I am sure that you will be able to provide the same for two lucky kids. You are with us in our thoughts and we wish you nothing but positive things going forward.
Emil and Andrea
I've been thinking about you all morning. We've known all along that it was a possibility with ours too, and while I hear you that we need to be happy they have a home, there is no way it can't break our hearts. I'm sorry Lura.
ReplyDeleteLaura
It is bittersweet. I am happy for those sweet boys and sad for you. Still those boys were loved by family and friends they will never know because you introduced them to us. What an awesome thing to be loved by people from all over the world.
ReplyDeleteYour children are just waiting to find you. Keep looking.
Love you.
Oh Lura, I'm so sorry. I'm heartbroken for you. Of course I'm happy that the boys are together and now part of a family, but I am heatbroken for you and Bobby. Please know that you are in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteAnd if you'd like to talk about anything, please just drop me a quick line and we'll chat;)
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